Getting through, your boo hoo
The sound of crying.
1 - "Boo hoo!" cried Lisa after she misplaced her saxophone.
(used ironically, spoken as an ordinary word) it is not worth crying about, an expression of contempt
2 - So, you broke it. Boo hoo! Get a grip and clean up the mess.
We're born, we crawl, we stand, waddle, walk and eventually we run.….and then what?
We go to play school, little school, big school, college or university.….and then what?
We make friends, join clubs, take exams, learn to drive, get jobs, get laid, we turn 18, were all "grown up"…and then what?
Parents, grandparents, teachers, family and friends inspire, coach, push, mentor or simply ordered us to work through any pain and fears to “grow up” in life. We step up through resistance and stretched through, to another level in some form or another. This goes on over and over until we’ve reached a “certain standard” in life. Alone we'd have turned away, given up, taken our time, avoided or ignored this work until it went away, or maybe it would never have got done. Luckily we don't see many 18 years olds crawling around with a dummies, being spoon fed, crying while they wait for food and generally struggling to function “properly” as an adult.
Luckily while young, most of us were made to focus, push, endure until we came out the other side, bigger, brighter and all "grown up" apparently….and then what?
Working on myself or with clients I find as we grow we get to (what I call) the boo hoo's. This points of uncomfortable stretch that’s the work in taking us further into a new dimensions and depth of self not explored before. Just like a plant goes down into the dark, damp, depths of resistance to grow, we do the same. Only then do we reveal hidden depth, beauty, creativity that’s been held within.
Most of us are actually just like babies in many ways and simply moment’s away from a boo hoo in some form. It’s the point we hit the thought, beliefs, fears stopping us from growing up that bit little bit further than before. I may not be talking about a full tantrum throwing ourselves on the floor of a shop screaming and thrashing, I might not even be talking about a bottom lip quiver or a simple stamping tantrum. These moments maybe subtle, an avoidance of a situation, habits required to move you to a dream, almost shutting your eyes as you pass the gym, moving and hiding the pad you was going to start writing your first book in, being too busy to apply for promotion, look for a career or role that was more satisfying or aligned but out of your comfort zone.
Breakthroughs come in moment of a clear pop or slow soft stretches that take us further than we've been before, through to the other side of who we are yet to be. If you think of the person you would like to be, the dreams, desires you seek in life. Moving towards these will lead you to a choice, this is a choice you can avoid or one you can step up and into and that puts you in a point of stretch. Like yoga it's about sitting in these limits long enough, simply breathing into the fears or attachments that want us to scream out boo hoo’s.
Keep going, if it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
Quote
" Fear may seem miles wide, but it's only and inch thick"
Break through yours!!
Questions to help you think differently:
- What's a goal that scares you enough to think or want to cry Mummy?
- Who would be a powerful mentor that could hold your hand and help you through to achieve a goal you have been putting off?
- If your still hiding behind your Mummy's skirt in life, what are you hiding from?
- What area in your life would you wish your kids (real or imaginary) would grow to breakthrough to go further than you have in life?
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